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Is excess weight hampering your sex life?

Maybe your hubby prefers ‘bigger gals’ and accepts you just the way you are – with your sturdy behind, 40 additional kilograms and all! But if something is telling you that your sex life is waning as a result of your obesity…it’s time to listen to that little voice!

There are very few women among us who are totally happy with their bodies. One glance at pharmacy shelves groaning under the weight of diet products will confirm that women are willing to try any lotion or potion to rid themselves of excess weight. For some women, it’s a kilogram here or there, but there are those who have a serious problem. We already know that excess weight has a negative effect on your health and self-image, but did you know that it can also hamper your sex life?

Research has shown that weight loss can give your sex life an incredible boost. In 2005, a study showed that moderate weight loss can have a positive impact on how you feel about your sexuality. Dr. Martin Binks of Duke University reported that people who lost just 10% of their total body weight experienced a noteworthy improvement in the quality of their sex life! “The public is aware of the fact that they have an increased risk of developing diabetes, heart disease, hypertension and more if they are obese,” he explains, but little is known about the risks which associate obesity with sexual problems.

Experts believe that one of the biggest stumbling blocks for a healthy sex life is a poor self-image. Psychologist and self-image expert Abby Aronson says: “The epitome of sexuality is the doing away with self-consciousness in order to truly experience the moment intensely. If your lumps and bumps, or how your bottom looks at a certain angle, are bothering you, it is nearly impossible to enjoy the moment, never mind be there for your mate.” Binks adds that he realised that, usually, when patients begin feeling better about themselves, they see a substantial increase in their sexual appetite. Participation in a healthy lifestyle really does help, even if you don’t manage to lose those extra pounds.

Of course, there are also physiological benefits: “Medical conditions such as high cholesterol and insulin resistance have the ability to impact on sexual performance which in turn influence desire, especially in men,” says Andrew McCollough. Because these conditions can cause the small veins in the penis to become closed off, impotence and erectile dysfunction may occur as a result. The same problem also affects women. “We are starting to see that the width of the blood vessels which lead to the clitoris are affected by the same kind of blockages which impact on the blood flow to the penis,” believes Susan Kellogg, director of sexual health at the Pelvic and Sexual Health Institute of Graduate Hospital in Philadelphia. What happens next is that the woman’s body is less reactive, and her desire diminishes. The heavier you are, the higher your levels of a natural chemical substance called ‘sex-hormone-binding globulin’. The more testosterone this substance binds, the less of it is available to stimulate desire.

If obesity is affecting your sex life negatively, put the following action plan in place:

•    Lose weight to stimulate your sex hormones
•    Eat healthier food which contributes to healthy cholesterol and blood sugar levels
•    Keep your exercise session focused on blood flow to the pelvis
•    Read a sexy book
•    Accept your body at any age
•    Believe in your sensuality