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15December2018

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Your marriage’s 10 commandments: Part 2

In this article we continue with the last five commandments.

A marriage’s sixth commandment: Don’t destroy your partner, but be soft

Exodus 20:13 orders us not to commit murder. Many people mockingly say: “I have never thought about divorce, but murder? A lot!” On a more serious note, this commandment is more applicable to a marriage than what you may think. You may not destroy your partner. If you want a long lasting marriage, you must learn how to work softly with your partner. Violence and short tempers destroy relationships. Remember that your partner’s self-image can either be destroyed or built in a positive manner.

A marriage’s seventh commandment: Do not commit adultery

Exodus 20:14 probably gives the most important marital commandment. There is probably nothing more destructive than an affair. Beware of affairs that are committed by your thoughts, says Bayless. In Mathew 5:28 is says: “But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.: Bayless says there is so much space for love, but no place for lust in a marriage. “Love gives, lust takes. Love serves, lust claims. Love feeds, lust throttles.” In addition the price of sex is a holy institution that may be enjoyed within the boundaries and holiness of a marriage.

A marriage’s eighth commandment: Be a person of integrity

Exodus 20:15 advises us not to steal. If you aren’t a person of integrity (if you always cheat and take short paths), it will be difficult for your partner to respect you. Your honesty must make your partner proud, because respect between a married couple is so important. It’s difficult to give yourself wholeheartedly to someone who doesn’t have integrity.

A marriages ninth commandment: Be honest

Honesty is central to a happy marriage, because someone that tells lies, isn’t a good spouse, says Bayless. “If you can lie to someone else without much effort, you can just as easily lie to you partner. And if you deceive people, are dishonest to get to the top or you are false in any aspect, your partner won’t trust you.”

A marriages tenth commandment: Be satisfied with what you have

The tenth commandment in Exodus 20:17 says that you may not covet. It is a direct commandment. Be satisfied with what you have. Accentuate what you and your partner are blessed with. That means that you should rather celebrate your partner’s fads and whims as opposed to thinking: “I wish he was rather like this . . .” Give your partner’s gifts wings and don’t think the grass is greener on the other side of the fence.

Live your life according to the Ten Commandments and before you know it, you have a marriage based on principles – and then passion comes so easily!

Article by ANNELIZE STEYN